The Narcissist's Child

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There’s a story coming through

thats just from me to you

So here it is in full

I hope it won’t be dull

Its about a little girl

who had a lot to unfurl,

she kept a lot inside,

many things she had to hide.

She couldn’t let them out

or mum would scream and shout

This made her want to cry

though she wasn’t quite sure why

In this young girls life

there was a lot of strife

It wasn’t caused by her,

but a cross she had to bear

Though often she was accused

and subsequently was abused

She took it on the chin

and hid it with a grin

No one know the score

about what happened behind closed doors

A life of isolation

fear, and alienation

Love and care in lack

while she constantly watched her back

A reversal of the roles

in the little girls household

It was her responsibility

to manage mums insanity

An inappropriate task

for a little girl to ask

Expected all the same

she had to play the game

She tried with all her might

to always get it right,

because to make an error

would fill her up with terror

So in order to survive

she pushed herself aside

To care for the other

who was supposed to be the mother

She forgot about herself

put her needs upon the shelf

The closet hid her feelings

while she went about her dealings

Her hopes and dreams unborn

her nerves shattered and torn

She really didn’t blame

her mother all the same

She was told more than enough

how mum had had it tough

The girl had it easy

her life nice and breezy

Thats what she was told

by her mother with a scold

This she took onboard

even though she felt discord

She learned to block it out

and place her trust without

The years did roll by

and she still didn’t cry

A master of disguise

hid her pain behind her eyes

For all the world to see

she looked to be carefree

The house, the car, a good wife

The look of the perfect life

But the cracks began to show

her facade it had to go,

couldn’t keep it up no longer

the past had finally caught her

Couldn’t hold it in no more

her feelings battered down the door

She collapsed into a heap

but allowed herself to weep

She cried, and cried and cried

from her feelings, she could not hide

All the guilt and the shame,

the self loathing and self blame

Came rushing to the top

afraid it would not stop

A tidal wave of emotion

enough to fill an ocean

Still she let it come

until she knew it done

She pulled herself together

realising she felt much better

The waters did recede

and she knew what she would need

The meltdown gave her hope

an alternative to the rope

She had to speak her truth

and reclaim back her youth

Off she went and sought

professional support

Sitting down each week

with the counsellor, she began to speak

Encouraged she was to vent

The pressure it soon did went

Each week she felt relief

letting go of all her grief

She learned to understand

what happened was out of hand

The counsellor helped her see

what a beautiful person was she

She learned to love herself

took her needs back off the shelf

She went from strength to strength

returning to good health

Her inner child inside

No longer was denied

And who she came to be

Is the woman that you now see!

  

Paula Caffrey

4th June 2021